Personal Freedom -The first step for empowering your dream

The First Step For Empowering Your Dream​​​​​​​

This week’s question comes from someone who wants to remain anonymous.

Hi Martha,

I’m struggling to make headway in making my dreams come true. I have a vision for how I want to live, the life and business I want to build but I keep getting slowed down, and bogged down in the details and what I need to take action on. I feel overwhelmed.

Any suggestions?

This is a very common problem and one that can completely derail aspiring entrepreneurs and creatives.

However, there’s very concrete steps you can take to move out of this dilemma and keep you moving forward while building and growing your dream.  The steps apply whether you’re focused on building a business or working on creating well-being and freedom in other areas of your life.

It may sound like a “no brainer” but honestly…

It’s the number one thing that slowed me down, and I don’t want it to slow you down.

The first step for getting out of overwhelm is clarity. (It’s the first step in my 5 step plan I use with my private coaching clients).

Like I said, it sounds like a no-brainer, but let me explain further.   What I’ve seen with many clients is that they have a “dream” but they don’t have clarity on what it will really take to make it happen.  I’m not talking business plan here.

You have to take things out of the dream stage and into real life planning.  It’s work! The biggest reason people stop going after their dream is they don’t realize just how much time, effort, and energy it’s going to take.

Being clear about things upfront, you’ll be more prepared.

Like weight loss, there is no magic bullet or formula.  It takes work and commitment and a change in habits and mindset.

The first step I use with clients is getting super clear on what they want their end result to be.

In order to achieve results, no matter what you desire, you have to be able to measure the outcome.

Measurable goals is what will get you where you want to go.

It’s the ONLY way you know if you are taking the right steps.  It’s not enough to say, I want to lose weight.

You only know your are making progress by measuring the results of your actions. In business, you can be busy all day long but if it doesn’t show up in your bank account then the actions you are taking aren’t bringing you success. The same goes for changing your health and body.

Measure your actions with your results.

If your actions aren’t working you need to do something different.

If you want to own a shop but don’t want to work nights, weekends, or holidays you’ll have to hire a very good staff that you trust to work and manage your store.  When I owned a retail business I had no idea how much work it was going to be.

I adjusted and learned and grew but I could have saved a lot of money and headaches if I had been clearer on what it is I really wanted to feel and experience.

It’s a good idea to take into account your personality traits too.  Are you an introvert or extrovert? Owning a shop can take a lot of energy. If you’re an introvert that might not be a good choice for your personality.

My point here is to spend some time getting super, super clear.   Things to consider include:

1. How do I want to spend most of my time?

What do I want to be doing day in and day out?  Is that in alignment with my dream. If you want to be a massage therapist but don’t like marketing then you’ll have to hire someone to do that, or be willing to work for an hourly wage for someone else that will dictate your schedule. If you want to build a massage business to have more freedom with your time, the second option might not be a good choice.

2. What will it take for you to be successful?

In business, how much money do you want/need to earn?  Do you offer a service or a product? How will you sell it? How many do you need to sell?  Almost every service or product has a threshold price point.  It’s why doctors charge so much…they can only trade a certain amount of time for money. They can only increase their income by charging more money. The amount of hours they can work  always has a limit.

If it’s an improvement for your health and well-being, are you willing to dig deep to uncover why you’re stuck where you are now?  If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. Are you willing to go deep to uncover what’s getting in the way of change?  Are you willing to do whatever it takes?

Are you willing to be 100% responsible for your results? 
3. What is your compelling “why”?  

Change and transformation take unwavering commitment!  When the going gets rough, and the chips are down, (and I can guarantee both will happen), what is your reason to keep going and not stop? Is it financial reward? Is it working from home so you can be with your kids? Is it having freedom to travel whenever you want?

4. Where will you get support and guidance?

This is HUGE!  A client told me that she was considering becoming a health and nutrition coach. She had a vision for herself, her family, and her life.  When she discussed her desired career dreams with her husband, he was concerned about investing in her new path and responded by saying, “What if you can’t do it?  We can’t afford for you to do this and not make it work. Are you sure you can do it? “.  OUCH!

We all want to have someone that believes in us and our dream.  

We assume it’s going to be our family, friends, and loved ones.  The Truth is most of the time they’re the ones that hold us back and can keep us stuck in our old patterns of “not enough”.

I remember laying in bed one night, crying, and praying…that someone would believe in me and my dreams.  The truth was, I wanted them to lift me up and elevate me, so I could get more confidence in myself. I had to learn to develop that confidence from within. But it was really helpful to have a tribe that encouraged me because they had been through it themselves.

Going for “the gold” will challenge you on every level.  It’s super important to have people who will inspire and support you when you feel lost.  Find your “people”.

  Your tribe can support you when you feel like stopping, but confidence is an inside job.

The last tip I have about clarity is…

Be willing to “stand in the stillness”.

Sometimes we can get so focused on the end result–the destination, that we miss the signs and messages that are circling around us to help us have more flow, ease, and grace in getting our desired results.

One of the best gifts we can give ourselves is to slow down!

Everything we want really is looking for us. Too often, we can’t hear the guidance through all the noise and chaos.  Be willing to cultivate a practice of inner stillness. Yes, it is a practice, and it will take consistent effort. But in that space is where you develop the clarity it will take to build your dreams and desires and bring them to fruition.

With love,

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